#MeTime… it’s necessary. If you’re anything like me, you def just read that and you were all, “LOL yeah right, that sh*t just doesn’t exist girl BYE.” Ok yes, #MeTime is hard to come by, but hear me out. If you DON’T factor some time for yourself into your week, you’re gonna be living a life full of dark bags under your eyes and constant sadness when you can’t join the convo on whether you love Corrine or hate her (hint: she’s the she-devil, but also kind of #BachelorGirlGoals, tbh. That girl DFAF, that’s for sure.)
My point is, you need to start giving yourself some down time. Those Bumble matches aren’t gonna just swipe themselves, ya know. Luckily for you, I’ve put together a list of 5 ways to squeeze in time for yourself so you don’t become a raging psycho who nobody wants to go to happy hour with bc you’re a buzzkill. You’re welcome.
#1: Tell all of your friends you can’t go out, a-la, “I can’t go out. *cough*. I’m sick.” Your friends will be all “Boo, you whore” Regina George style, and then they’ll leave you alone until 2am when they send you like 45 snapchats of them drunk-eating tacos at a random guy’s house whose name you’ll prob never learn because be real, your friends won’t remember, and the guys won’t be texting them ever again anyways #modernromance. A Friday night home alone? THIS IS MY HEAVEN. I love you guys so much, that I graciously dedicated a Friday night home to myself just so I could give you some direction on what to do.
- Get into your oldest, ugliest sweats, because everyone knows these are also the most comfortable pieces of clothing you own. Since nobody will be seeing you, it doesn’t matter that you’re wearing your dad’s XL sweatshirt with the pizza grease stain and holes on the collar. Girl, you do you.
- Turn off the lights and light some candles. I prob have at least 25 candles in various locations around my apartment. This is really not an exaggeration. But selection is key. For this, I went with a Pumpkin Chai Spice by Melt With You. This is just about the dreamiest candle scent in the world. We may be in the dreaded dead of winter right now, but this will give you all the feels of hoodie + PSL weather, which is my personal favorite. Scent is everything, ladies, and this one had my apartment smelling like something was baking in the oven, but didn’t wanna make me vom like the ones labeled “vanilla cupcake” or whatever at Walmart do, which is a plus.
- Toss on Netflix… but make sure what you’re watching is a classic. Yes, I know you want to catch up on your shows, but there’s nothing better than being all cozy on your couch and watching a movie that reminds you of the when you were 13 (the good kind of memories though – not the ones from when you found out it wasn’t “cool” to like High School Musical anymore. I have feelings about it, it’s fine, I’m over it. Troy Bolton will always be the ultimate dream boat.
#2: Hit the gym. I love to complain about going to the gym as much as the next person. You wanna talk about how much you love SoulCyle? Do it someplace else, because I’m not interested – I freaking HATE SoulCyle (this is a really sacrelig. thing to say as a 20-something year old girl in NYC, but it seriously sucks). HOWEVER. As the iconic Elle Woods would say, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t punch their co-workers in the face when they don’t get their coffee in time :).” Or something to that effect. Anyways, the gym is a great place to relieve some stress and just sweat it out. When all else fails and your fave eliptical is out of order AGAIN (I’m looking @ you, NYSC – get your sh*t together), sign up for a class. Most gyms offer free group classes (or you can pay for one-off classes if you don’t belong to a gym). Take a Zumba class and dance it out, or sign up for kickboxing and pretend like the punching bag has your boss’s face glued to the front. I promise, you’ll leave feeling better than when you got there. Pro tip: If you want to try a trendy NYC workout, check out my post on the class I took at Body by Simone– it was incredible!
#3: Pamper yourself. Start with going to your neighborhood nail salon and getting a mani/pedi. You’ll have an hour and a half of uninterrupted time to sit in a massage chair and scroll through your Insta feed and judge people. What more could a girl ask for? Once your nails are dry, head home and have a beauty night. *Note* this is different from calling in sick to your friends at the bar. This past Sunday, I had a beauty night for myself. I started by drawing a bubble bath. The elements to the bath are key in making sure it’s relaxing.
- The water was hot, and I carefully selected a bath bomb to set the tone. Was I in a glittery mood? A pink + purple mood? No. I was in a birthday cake mood. So I whipped out my bath bomb from Jade Taylor Market and tossed it in. Excellent choice, I must say. It moisturized my skin, which was practically flaking off from how dry this winter weather has made it. Also, I smelled delicious and I didn’t hate it.
- I lit one of my other favorite candles from Melt With You – this one was Sparkling Citrus scented. It was PERFECT! For me, I like clean/fresh scents when it comes to anything related to my lotions, body washes, perfumes etc., so I prefer that in my bathtime candles as well.
- I applied my favorite pore-cleansing mask (Boscia Luminizing Black Mask). Just to warn you, this thing hurts like a bitch when you pull it off. But your skin will feel baby-bottom smooth after your done, and you’ll have no regrets. Pro-tip: Pair this mask with one of the Sephora sheet masks after (I personally like the pomegranate one). I did this once and when I walked into work the next day, 3 different people asked if I’d gotten a facial because my skin looked so good. One even said I looked like I was glowing. HELL YEAH!
After you’ve soaked in the tub until the point of turning into a prune, move on to your hair. I don’t know about you, but my hair has been dry as all get-out recently, and breaking far more easily than I’d like it to. So I’ve started applying weekly hairmasks to protect my color-treated locks from the harsh rage-like strokes with which I attempt to detangle it. While all of this beautifying is happening, feel free to catch up of the latest Housewives drama of your choosing. I’m partial to NYC and Beverly Hills, but that’s just me. You know I love me some Lisa + Giggy action!
If you’re reading this and saying to yourself, “yeah that’s great but I don’t have time for any of these things… move right along to #4 and #5.
#4) Read a book. I feel like at the age of 24, I shouldn’t be having to tell people that reading has like 2358823423 benefits and that you should be reading something at least once a month, but you’d be surprised. I’m not suggesting that you pick up War & Peace, but something quick that you can read on your subway commute will make the time go by faster and keep your brain just a little bit sharper. And it’s just one more thing that you’re doing for yourself, instead of stress-refreshing your email and waiting for that one client you hate to send over a request that will just ruin your day. Put the phone down, pick the book up, and dedicate 20 minutes to taking your mind off of work. I promise you won’t hate it.
#5) If all else fails, brew yourself a cup of tea. You can curl up on your couch, answer some emails while the kettle is boiling, and then once it’s done, put in your favorite tea bag + creamer and start winding down for bed. I’ve started doing this around 11pm every night. As soon as the kettle starts whistling, I know it’s time to shut down the laptop, get cozy under the covers, and throw on an episode of Friends to fall asleep to.
Do you have any other tips + tricks to squeeze in some #MeTime? Comment below!
Links on Where to Buy Products I Mentioned in this Post:
- Melt with You Pumpkin Chai Spice candle: CLICK HERE
- Melt with You Sparkling Citrus candle: CLICK HERE
- Jade Taylor Market bath bomb: CLICK HERE
- Boscia Luminizing Black Mask: CLICK HERE
- Sephora’s Pomegranate Sheet Mask: CLICK HERE